What am i doing wrong or is the software just straight trash?

Are you cutting a slot just as narrow as the endmill?

That results in near constant 100% tooling engagement and should be avoided whenever possible.

Add geometry and cut as a pocket down to tab height or the penultimate pass:

where possible avoid slotting and add geometry and cut as a pocket

and/or

and consider leaving a roughing clearance and taking a finishing pass.